February 2012
163 posts
being told that, because something that “should” trigger you doesn’t, you’re faking other triggers, or that you aren’t justified in reacting to “lesser” triggers. submitted by fella-ozzella
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when you get the courage to call the cops and they tell you that you’re just a whiny bitch who wants attention and you need to realize you’re going to ruin HIS life by turning him in submitted by quadrupedalism
being scolded for reacting to triggers, as though it’s a choice. submitted by fella-ozzella
Forgiving them right off the bat and just trying to keep normalcy with them and yourself even though they terrify you, refusing help from others, especially when it comes to the authorities, and trying to continue to nurture a relationship with them because somehow you still believe it was your fault that it happened. Because if this is the fifth person that has done this sort of thing to you,...
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Needing a recovery day and everyone expecting you to fake happy and “normal” for their sake. submitted by toranseisstrong
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When someone you care for a lot makes fun of PTSD, while knowing that you have it. And you just take it, like you always do. submitted by candybutthole
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Anonymous asked: that moment when "survivor problems" causes you to trigger...
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Being a survivor of multiple attempted sexual assaults, and sexual, emotional and physical abuse, and stalking by a person with the help of their gang, -but no one take your story seriously because he was a year younger than you :/ -Not just that but 15 years after the experience you are still suffering from ptsd because NO ONE wants to let you talk about your story or help you heal… -____-...
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The awkward moment when you can’t remember an entire year.
submitted by flatjean
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Anonymous asked: Great page! Is there any page about physical abuse like this? Like domestic violence?
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Your worst triggers being common things that nobody has a problem with and you can’t ask for others to refrain from. submitted by toranseisstrong
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I really shouldn’t have to be repeating this, but I will not post negative messages from assholes. Find another corner of the internet to troll.
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Feeling like a huge drain on the people you love.
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Accepting that we’ll never be able to hold a proper relationship because we can’t find someone that all of us in the system are comfortable with. submitted by innoxiou-s
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(for those that suffer from PTSD)
Some days you can tell right when you wake up that your PTSD will be bugging you all day. Other days it takes you by surprise. submitted by mentalscubadiving
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Reading this blog because you survived assault and then figuring out you’ve been emotionally abused your whole life and unable to see it. Well, shit. submitted by anonymous
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Anonymous asked: Don't worry I'm not upset! I'm honestly just asking for selfish reasons of wanting to reblog ALL THE THINGS and. Feeling kind of uncomfortable because they end up saying he or him somewhere in it. But at the same time, I don't want to cause anyone any disrespect by making them feel like they should change their wording. Really I guess I'm just asking the submitters to...
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Anonymous asked: Why is it that most of the posts here are so gender specific? (he, him, etc?) As someone who was abused by a woman, I have to admit, I feel a little excluded because I seem to be in such a vast minority. Maybe you could make the posts a little more general by using they/them or something?
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No matter how much you sleep, you’re always exhausted. submitted by mentalscubadiving
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Feeling terrified every time your period starts because for a split second your brain and soul believe that he’s made you bleed again. submitted by nikkif610
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when for no reason at all you remember how he taste and you can’t do anything for the next few hours. submitted by sacred-and-finite
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Nightmares. Dissociation. Nightmares. Body memories. Nightmares. Flashbacks. Nightmares.
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When people who know still friend the person who assaulted you on facebook and you begin to feel like no one cares or sees it as wrong. submitted by anonymous
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Needing to skip classes and call out of work CONSTANTLY.
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When your friend says they don’t believe someone was really assaulted because they talk about it too much… and you’re thinking that its people like your friend who make people like you stay quiet about it for so long.
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when you realize that most adults don’t view sex as shameful or dirty. and that realization is completely baffling. submitted by chemicalsbetweenus
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When your partner repeatedly asks you to be more dominant in bed, but you’re physically and emotionally unable to be. submitted by wtfitsclurrqzo
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Dissociating.
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When your therapist is sick/on vacation…
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When “romance” and “abuse” are inseparable; you can have abuse without romance, but you can’t have romance without abuse. This is just how it is in your mind, and you’d rather give up on romance forever than challenge it… submitted by anonymous
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When people tell you that getting drunk and losing all control isn’t “proper behavior” for a victim. And you want to tell them that sometimes it’s the only way you can cope, and that you never learned anything other than to give up control. submitted by anonymous
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When you relate to every post on “survivor-problems.” submitted by anonymous
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Getting a panic attack out of the blue, then spending the rest of the day trying to figure out what even triggered that one. submitted by missvoltairine
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When “the guys” at work are trying to pal around with you and jokingly threaten to restrain you with packaging tape and all you can do is pretend that its funny, when in reality you’re about to go into panic mode at the thought of struggling against any kind of restraint.
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Anonymous asked: This is kind of a weird submission I guess, but: when you don't know if your possible desire to be "dominated" in bed stems from ingrained behavior and wanting to avoid doing something wrong and being hurt, or if it's actually something that turns you on.
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When you’re constantly worried that your abuse somehow caused your sexuality even though you know that’s ridiculous. submitted by get-out-of-this-labyrinth
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Anonymous asked: In reference to the previous ask post, maybe write it down? He can ask you questions off of the small bit you shared on paper, and slowly build up to talking about everything?
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Anonymous asked: I'm a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I'm an adult now and just started my first romantic relationship and I want to tell my partner about my history, but I don't know how. He's a survivor too, and I trust him and feel safe with him like I've never felt safe with anyone before, but every time I try to tell him I physically can't form the words. Does anyone have...
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when you can’t stand people touching your neck because it reminds you of being choked. submitted by thelastdeadpetalonarose
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Open ended question: As a survivor, what are some ways that rape culture itself [trigger warning] negatively affects you?
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When a therapist finally voices the fact that you are seriously depressed and might need serious help and you feel relieved. Until you tell your friends and they say that your therapist is whack and there’s no way you’re that bad. submitted by anonymous
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when you want to go to a party, but you know that they will be there so you are paranoid the entire time that someone will say something, even though you just try to ignore them the entire party. submitted by forever-young-is-in-your-mind
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When it’s too hard to trust somebody else, so you push them away and keep carrying it yourself. submitted by crushedviolets
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Other survivors trying to silence you. submitted by anonymous
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when you take scalding showers that last over half an hour, because you’re trying to get the feeling of their hands off of you. submitted by anonymous
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Being told that your PTSD stems from your inability to “accept that it happened and move on.” submitted by toranseisstrong
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When you feel forced to open up to a friend because they keep triggering you then later they make horrible rape jokes.
submitted by anonymous
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when a rape comes up in a movie you’re watching with friends/parents whomever and everyone awkwardly averts their eyes from you.
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When a rape comes up in a movie you’re watching with someone who knows and they cover your eyes, change the channel or fast forward without even asking you if you are triggered or not first.
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